One young academically excellent person went for an interview for a
managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview;
BUT in that Company, the director did the last interview, made the last
decision.
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result was
excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the
postgraduate research, never was there a year he did not score. The
director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the
youth answered "no".
The director asked, " Did your father pay your school fees?". The youth
answered, "my father passed away when I was one year old and it
was my mother who paid my school fees".
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, "my
mother worked as cloth cleaner." The director requested the
youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth
and perfect to the director.
The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?"
The youth answered," never, my mother always wanted me to study
and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I
could"
The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help to
clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he
went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His
mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands
to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly and his tears fell as he did
that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands
were so wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some
bruises were so painful that she shuddered when his mother's
hands were cleaned with water.
This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is
this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to earn him
the school fees and that the bruises in the mother's hand were the price
that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence
and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed
all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The director noticed
the tear in the youth's eye and asked: " Can you tell what
you did and learnt yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hands and also finished washing
all the remaining clothes'
The director asked, "Please tell me what you felt"
The youth said:
"Number 1, I know what appreciation is now'. Without my mother, I would not
be successful today.
Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother. Only now do I
realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship."
The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person
that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the
suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put
money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of
his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team
and the company improved tremendously.
The Lessons from this anecdote:
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs,
develops "entitlement mentality" and always puts himself first. He
is ignorant of his parents' efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every
person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he
would never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others.
These kinds of people, may/will achieve good results and may
be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of
achievement or satisfaction.
If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to ask
the question- whether we did/do love our kids or destroy them.
-You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play
the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass,
please let them experience it.
-After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their
brothers and sisters.
-It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because
you want to love and show them the correct way.
-You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parent are, one
day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too
will grow grey,.
-The most important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate,
experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with
others to get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the
parents have done and love them for who they are!
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